The Unheard Voice Of The Adoptee
The voice of the Adoptee is one that is so overlooked and it's the most important voice in the whole process.
The Adoptee suffers so so much all their lives.
We live only half a life, part of us is missing.
We don't know why we're where we are,who we truly are. We are expected to be grateful for being taken from our mother and fathers, be it for the better lives or not. It doesn't make a difference we still constantly wonder who we are.
We wonder about our family's, have we siblings? Have we a twin? What could possibly be so bad in life to make our mothers give us away, for many to never see us ever again unless we search for them.
We are not who people see us as.
We have a whole other side to us that no one wants to talk about or think about.
The world thinks that adoption is perfect, the child gets a new life, great.
We feel an ache that cannot be filled even with answers.
How many articles are there about adoption, The bad side of it?
Yeah it's all great a family get a child, the child gets a new family. We don't always want a new family, sometimes we want who we are blood related to.
We live a fake life. So many of us just want to know our heritage.
There are so many times we cry that no one knows about because we feel we cannot talk to anyone due to no one understanding how we feel. So when we do talk and people say "I know how you feel" you have no fucking clue how hard it is to live a life where you have to always be grateful for being adopted
Yea we're greatful but fuck people cop on and realise we have feelings, we want to know who our real parents are! It hurts not knowing. We wish we could just tell people but no one knows.
no one helped me understand what adoption was. None of my friends were adopted, or maybe they just weren’t talking about it. Adoption was a big secret but I thought about it often.
The Adoptee suffers so so much all their lives.
We live only half a life, part of us is missing.
We don't know why we're where we are,who we truly are. We are expected to be grateful for being taken from our mother and fathers, be it for the better lives or not. It doesn't make a difference we still constantly wonder who we are.
We wonder about our family's, have we siblings? Have we a twin? What could possibly be so bad in life to make our mothers give us away, for many to never see us ever again unless we search for them.
We are not who people see us as.
We have a whole other side to us that no one wants to talk about or think about.
The world thinks that adoption is perfect, the child gets a new life, great.
We feel an ache that cannot be filled even with answers.
How many articles are there about adoption, The bad side of it?
Yeah it's all great a family get a child, the child gets a new family. We don't always want a new family, sometimes we want who we are blood related to.
We live a fake life. So many of us just want to know our heritage.
There are so many times we cry that no one knows about because we feel we cannot talk to anyone due to no one understanding how we feel. So when we do talk and people say "I know how you feel" you have no fucking clue how hard it is to live a life where you have to always be grateful for being adopted
Yea we're greatful but fuck people cop on and realise we have feelings, we want to know who our real parents are! It hurts not knowing. We wish we could just tell people but no one knows.
no one helped me understand what adoption was. None of my friends were adopted, or maybe they just weren’t talking about it. Adoption was a big secret but I thought about it often.
So many times when we're out walking around we see people and wonder could they be our mother, father, brother and so on
It's funny, I notice if I post a quote on instagram about adoption it only gets a few likes , where as if I post another quote it'll get more, just so funny how even a picture about adoption gets ignored. It's like people don't want to even think about it, they act like it's not a way of life for someone or where someone came to be where they are now.
We are confused and afraid of hurting our adoptive parents feelings if we try talk to them which is why many of us don't. I know so many people reading this will say oh she's so brave writing this but I just want people to realise how hard being adopted is.
So just keep an open mind when people tell you there adopted.
Thanks for reading
~lifeofshivy
Adopted offspring were nearly 4 times more likely to attempt suicide than nonadopted offspring, according to a study published September 9 in the Pediatrics.
The study included 692 adopted children and 540 nonadopted children, all residing in Minnesota. Fifty-six offspring in the study attempted suicide; 47 of those were adoptees.
McCauley Evans describes three reasons for the disproportionately high percentage of adoptee suicides: 1) Adoption—or more precisely the separation from one’s mother—is a trauma. 2) Adoptees lack a complete, accurate, and up-to-date medical history, which may include depression, or even suicide. 3) Adoptees don’t want to upset their adoptive parents with concerns about depression or anything that could be seen as ingratitude, including normal, healthy curiosity about their roots”
Anxiety and depression can also occur because, even though an adoptee may have only known love and family security, adoptees may grapple with the idea that if they were chosen, then it is possible for them to be unchosen (Riben, 2015). This idea can occur even if the child has only ever been shown unconditional love and acceptance
some adoptees struggle with the fact of having been placed for adoption and not kept by their original family. Some struggle with wanting to know who they are, and what their family stories are. Some are the only adoptee in their family, or the only person of color, and struggle with feelings of isolation and difference. In addition to being adopted, some adoptees have other differences—learning issues, gender identity, sexual preference, physical limitations—that are challenging within their families or within the larger community. Some adoptees struggle with “survivors’ guilt,” the mental condition that occurs when a person thinks they have done something wrong by surviving a traumatic event (abject poverty, abuse, war, famine, natural disaster), when others did not. Some adoptees feel guilty for wanting to know more about their origins. Some struggle with overcoming abuse that occurred prior to being adopted.
It's funny, I notice if I post a quote on instagram about adoption it only gets a few likes , where as if I post another quote it'll get more, just so funny how even a picture about adoption gets ignored. It's like people don't want to even think about it, they act like it's not a way of life for someone or where someone came to be where they are now.
We are confused and afraid of hurting our adoptive parents feelings if we try talk to them which is why many of us don't. I know so many people reading this will say oh she's so brave writing this but I just want people to realise how hard being adopted is.
So just keep an open mind when people tell you there adopted.
Thanks for reading
~lifeofshivy
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