My Adoption
Hmm so yeah this is my first blog post,I'm very skeptical about posting this but i think it's really important for people to get to know me and my background before I go full on blogging. My name is Siobhan Ludmilla Coffey and I am a Russian adoptee.
I don't know much about my adoption or my birth parents/family other than my mothers name, my fathers name and the date my mother gave me up.
'Gave me up' it's a funny kind of statement really, some make interpret it as she gave me up for my own good, for her own good or simply because she didn't want me. My option has always been a mixed one. There's days I think "maybe she did it for me, to give me the best life I could have" other days I think "hell maybe I was a mistake or a rape baby?"
There is millions of different scenarios played through my mind every day.
My Adoption was closed, meaning that the records of my Biological parents were kept sealed. This means it's extremely hard to search for my parents when all I know is a name.
My adoptive mother kind of remembers being told she was in college and was about 23/24 when she had me.
Adoption is such an ignored topic , everyone seems to think adoptees have it so easy , taken from one family into another, that's not always the case, some of us are put into abusive,drug or alcohol fuelled homes, this is only one tiny part of the places we can be put. I'm not saying all of us are I'm saying there is a percentage of us who are. And there is also some who have loving families to go to. Many of us suffer from identity crisis' due to not knowing a lot about ourselves or where we came from or why. Thinking of adding this to end it on?
There's two sides to every adoption story and this is mine.
I think it's only natural that all adoptees have these thoughts tho.
For any adoptees out there, you are important ,you are loved and you are wanted. You may want to search for and meet your birth parents that's great! Go for it!
For those of you who don't want to meet them or even know more about them, that's cool too! You might have an amazing life and don't see the need to upset that. Totally cool.
For me, I want to, no need to find them find something about them. Like do I have siblings? Extended family? So many things to consider and think about. I know it's going to be a long, tough road but I myself,need these answers to feel better about myself and my backround
Overall I just want to finish by saying that Adoption and being adopted isn't always easy, so don't be ignorant to there feelings by saying things like "oh your adopted your parents didn't want you" or "you should be greatful you have a family " it's not that easy yeah we are greatful but there's a lot more to it.
Thanks for reading.
-ismiseshivy
I don't know much about my adoption or my birth parents/family other than my mothers name, my fathers name and the date my mother gave me up.
'Gave me up' it's a funny kind of statement really, some make interpret it as she gave me up for my own good, for her own good or simply because she didn't want me. My option has always been a mixed one. There's days I think "maybe she did it for me, to give me the best life I could have" other days I think "hell maybe I was a mistake or a rape baby?"
There is millions of different scenarios played through my mind every day.
My Adoption was closed, meaning that the records of my Biological parents were kept sealed. This means it's extremely hard to search for my parents when all I know is a name.
My adoptive mother kind of remembers being told she was in college and was about 23/24 when she had me.
Adoption is such an ignored topic , everyone seems to think adoptees have it so easy , taken from one family into another, that's not always the case, some of us are put into abusive,drug or alcohol fuelled homes, this is only one tiny part of the places we can be put. I'm not saying all of us are I'm saying there is a percentage of us who are. And there is also some who have loving families to go to. Many of us suffer from identity crisis' due to not knowing a lot about ourselves or where we came from or why. Thinking of adding this to end it on?
There's two sides to every adoption story and this is mine.
I think it's only natural that all adoptees have these thoughts tho.
For any adoptees out there, you are important ,you are loved and you are wanted. You may want to search for and meet your birth parents that's great! Go for it!
For those of you who don't want to meet them or even know more about them, that's cool too! You might have an amazing life and don't see the need to upset that. Totally cool.
For me, I want to, no need to find them find something about them. Like do I have siblings? Extended family? So many things to consider and think about. I know it's going to be a long, tough road but I myself,need these answers to feel better about myself and my backround
Overall I just want to finish by saying that Adoption and being adopted isn't always easy, so don't be ignorant to there feelings by saying things like "oh your adopted your parents didn't want you" or "you should be greatful you have a family " it's not that easy yeah we are greatful but there's a lot more to it.
Thanks for reading.
-ismiseshivy
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