Moving & loneliness

 Loneliness 

It’s been so long since I wrote one of these so this isn’t going to be anything major in any way shape or form but one of my things for 2024 was to get myself back into writing.

So here it goes, First blog of the new year!

I didn’t move country but I did move to a different county, fair enough it’s only Limerick but it’s still a big thing to do. The distance isn’t that long from home but it doesn’t make it any easier. So here’s what I learned over the last 4 months😅. It’s probably just me going on a silly little rant but maybe someone will get a little bit of advice. 

Things no one tells you when you move from your hometown: 

• it’s so god damn lonely
• You’ll bearly see anyone
• Free time? Pft 
• Maintaining/ making friends is hard
• You’ll cry, but it’s ok to cry
• Your washings not gonna be done all the time
• Leap cards/ travel cards are great!
• Nowhere really does student discounts anymore 🤨

No one tells you all this stuff before you go and uproot your whole life. 

You’re gonna work yourself so hard just to make enough money to pay your rent and maybe something nice every once in a while. Savings aren’t gonna be a thing because being near shops everyday like Zara is dangerous. You’ll run in on your lunch break and bam 40€ gone.  Making your wage last a month is HARDDDDD! 

Money goes nowhere anymore, especially if you smoke and want some sort of life. 

The term ‘Treat Yo Self’ gets old real quick. A major thing I realised is a packed lunch is a HUGEEE way to save money, all those €5/€10 on lunch/ coffee add up super fast and deplete the bank account even faster.

I know the housing crisis is crazy but oh my god if you’re lucky enough to move out and I hope you are, find good roommates/ landlord/landlady’s.

I have been so lucky to land on my feet with an amazing landlady who is so generous and supportive when I need it. She’s more my friend now than my landlady 🥰 I wouldn’t have survived this long without her helping me. 

Things that are gonna hurt is seeing all your friends on nights out, or just in each others houses. It’s gonna hurt because you’ll be in work or at home going ‘jesus I wish I could be there’. You’re gonna feel forgotten and left out. 

Maintaining a relationship on top of friendships and family is like dividing your time even more🙃. Trying to balance friends , family a boyfriend and a job is chaos, I’m getting better at it but I also had to set myself a limit. Its ok to ask people to come see you some times, you can’t always be the one to go to them. I haven’t seen some of my friends in a few months and that’s ok, because when you do it’s like ye never left 🥰 . 

The one tip I will say is make time for yourself too. When you move you’ll try see everyone and run yourself ragged very quick, some days it’s ok if all you did was have a shower, throw on pjs and chill out in-front of the telly watching your favourite show. It’s good for the soul, and sometimes you just need a little social reset. 

Moving is lonely and hard but oh I wouldn’t change it for the world. I love my independence, my freedom, the goddamn BUS! I love being able to hop on a bus and go to work or town or wherever? How sad am I😅 it’s the little things that get you through the hard times. 

But overall, Take the risk. Do it, move, take the job and figure it all out once you have it. 

It’s stressful and Lonely and hard, but it’s work it eventually!